As women, we truly go through a lot. Building and maintaining our self-confidence can be a heavier chore than it needs to be.
Particularly, when our bodies go through change, we start the comparison game or are just in unfamiliar territory like …
- Venturing into a new career
- Meeting someone new
- OR even reminiscing on hurtful words of the past
That self-doubt and negative talk can easily creep into the crevices of our lives.
This can leave you in a confusing place.
Because you have some sense of who you are, what you’re capable of, along with your skills, experiences, and knowledge.
But nonetheless, deep down underneath the surface a voice still whispers that
- “You don’t know what you’re doing.”
- “You need to wait.”
- “You’re not good enough, try something else.”
- “You need to gain more knowledge.”
Sounds familiar?
Unquestionably, the reason why this connotation can be so dangerous is that your level of self-confidence is deliberately tied to your success in life.
You see, your ability to not only accept who you are authentically but to act and move on that belief is tied to your purpose, and ultimately your destiny.
Consequently, you need self-assurance as well as self-trust to make the big plays in life that will propel you to your next dimension.
Now I’m guessing you haven’t gotten around to strategically developing a plan to improve your self-confidence and tackle your self-limiting beliefs on a consistent basis?
Well, I’m here to tell you don’t leave it to chance.
On the one hand, it’s a great feeling to be confident and assured when everything is going right and you’re in a comfortable space.
But I’m here to strategically give you a plan in where “your cup runneth over” with confidence and fills in the gaps in the not-so-good moments.
Because truth is, in the low moments of life, we revert back to practice, not rise to the occasion.
So let’s dive in.
1. Claim Your Space
Simply put, show up and show out.
Without a doubt, nobody in this world has exactly what you have to offer. The way you have to offer it. This should give you tremendous confidence.
We’ve all been created to serve one another in our own capacities through our God-given skills, gifts, and talents. Take this to the bank.
Therefore, build your self-confidence through having a clear vision, working on that vision (your life’s work/purpose), and living the life The Creator intended for you to live.
Satisfied and fulfilled.
In order to do this, you must know who you are and whose you are. For deeper self-discovery answer these 10 questions for deeper self-intimacy.
2. Get Out of Your Head
To change the way you feel, change the way you think.
Not every thought that passes through your head, you are forced to believe. The conscious mind has the ability to reject or accept anything you tell it to before it reaches the subconscious mind.
Thus, self-doubt, and any other crippling thought pattern, are simply thoughts. Reject whatever is not conducive to your growth proactively.
After all, thoughts are things, focus on your assets and not your liabilities or the things that you lack.
I know this is not the easiest thing to do so I’ve included a simple and effective guide right here in order to help.
3. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Keep your promises to others. Most importantly, keep your promises to yourself.
When we plan our days, our diets, or agree to activities with other people and don’t show up for ourselves and others we don’t feel good about it.
Namely, the more important the task the worst we may feel.
You ask yourself – “Why couldn’t I get this right?” or “Why do I keep putting this off?”.
Alternatively, the true key to self-confidence is becoming a master at discipline and exercising delayed gratification.
You will feel amazing knowing that you are truly controlling your life and exercising disciple while resisting your impulses instead of just being dragged along by what you perceive as “uncontrollables”.
4. Affirm Like Nobody’s Business
“The power of life and death lies in the power of the tongue.” – Let’s not forget that.
Affirmations allow you to speak directly to your soul.
Don’t be fooled if you feel like nothing is happening when you first start. Trust me, your subconscious mind is taking notice.
Here are a few for the road:
- “I see my patterns, and I choose to make changes.”
- “I approve of myself.”
- “Only good can come to me.”
- “I honor who I am in Christ.”
- “I have the courage to live out my dreams.”
- “My day begins and ends with gratitude.”
- “I release all negative thoughts of the past and all worries about the future.”
5. Lavishly Shower Yourself With Self-Love
How is it that we can be so full of self-doubt in our own magic, in our own greatness, and in our own abilities but somehow find it within ourselves to see the beauty and magic in others?
Certainly, the day you learn to fully love, accept, and approve of yourself the way God loves, accepts, and approves of you, will be the day your world opens up for you and everything in your life will begin to work and flow freely.
Don’t dim your light and put a spotlight on someone else, you’re just as talented, you’re just as magical, you can be just as committed so go after what you want.
Moreover, self-love is demonstrated by never criticizing or judging yourself. Keeping a positive inner conversation, and releasing the baggage that’s been holding you down.
6. Triumph Over Your Limiting Beliefs
In order to triumph or conquer an enemy, you first must be able to identify who or what your enemy is.
In this case, you need to identify the roots of your limiting beliefs and where they come from.
Doing so will help you put into perspective how terribly false and unreasonable they are.
In particular, most of our self-limiting beliefs stem from a place of fear.
Fear distorts reality. And wherever there is fear, there is a level of ignorance.
“My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.” -Sounds familiar?
It’s the things we don’t know that ultimately lead to our demise.
Most importantly, it’s when we focus on the narrative we may be accustomed to instead of creating our own that harms us.
7. Remember to be Legendary
Being legendary and leaving a lasting impression on people is manifested through being your authentic self.
Indeed, your legacy is crafted through how you show up in the world.
How you use your gifts, your talents, and your natural abilities to bring a little piece of heaven down to earth.
After all, you are a reflection of The Ultimate Creator. People can see God when they see you because you are a reflection of God. He’s in you.
You are everything The Creator wanted you to be but you can’t be afraid to live boldly and truly be who you are.
Don’t undervalue the creation.
8. Have a Seat at the Round Table
Dealing with low self-confidence and limiting beliefs is a spiritual issue and it should be treated as such.
You can not hold your emotions, nor can you grasp your thoughts, these are things that are intangible.
They are spiritual but manifest results in the physical world.
For example, having low self-confidence (spiritual) causes you to not start the business you’ve always wanted (in the physical world).
With this in mind, know that having a seat at the round table includes going to God for help.
Think about how much confidence God has. Someone that calls themselves Alpha & Omega, The Beginning & End, The Lion of Judah. – You get it.
The point is sometimes we need to talk to someone who knows exactly how we’re feeling. Someone who can remind us of exactly who we are because part of them is in us.
Remarkably, God fills in the gaps. We are made perfect through him. – Don’t sleep on this.
9. Monkey See Monkey Do
Just like success breeds success. Confidence breeds confidence.
Self-confidence rubs off.
Get yourself around some confident women, whether personal friends or even family.
We as humans naturally pick up other people’s energy and tendencies at a rapid rate when we have a physical encounter.
To illustrate, the same way you can walk into a room and feel negativity and tension is the same way you can feel abounding strength and confidence that someone exudes.
If you can’t find someone physically, open a book. Read the biographies and stories of powerful women. Or even watch documentaries.
Get into their mind, get into their movement, dive into their life. It’s powerful and impactful.
10. Be Obsessed With Giving Gratitude
What does giving gratitude have to do with self-confidence?
Practicing gratitude allows you to create a predominant thought pattern of seeking and finding the good in your life.
It teaches you that it’s not about what you don’t have, it’s about what you’re already working with.
Hence, instead of worrying and losing peace over your body not being your desired shape, you can give thanks for crazy things like even having two eyes that allow you to see your body.
Instead of focusing on the deficits, focus on the assets.
Wrapping up
Remember that being self-confident and overcoming limiting beliefs starts with truly knowing who you are.
Take up space in the world, go after what makes you fulfilled and feel alive. Live in the present moment and always be a lady of your word.
In addition, treat yourself. Speak love over your life, and demonstrate that love daily. Expose your doubts, and choose to be yourself no matter what the cost.
Humbly seek help. Surround yourself with a good tribe, and always serve good energy.
Watch how the world opens up for you.
With Love,
