The Gift of Goodbye has to be one of the boldest and most fearless ways for you to take control of your life and maximize your time and potential.
At various times in our lives, we may settle and become lenient on who we allow into our lives.
We may be …
- Lonely
- Stressed
- Bored
- Having a lapse in judgment
- Have a lot going on in our lives where we relax our standards…
Thus, the problem lies when we snap back into reality or our normal routine, but now we have baggage.
Consequently, you now have one, or a few individuals who are now part of your life that are not …
- Contributing to your goals/dreams
- Are a complete distraction
- Not like-minded, this could be in terms of vision, but also ethics and values
Basically, they’re just taking up space in your life. And now you’re faced with the task of either being honest and letting them go with the Gift of Goodbye or continuing to suffer in silence.
Suffer, because it was your decision to let a temporary feeling or moment give you the audacity to give a person(s) more access to you than you should have.
And there is no one to blame but you.
And if you’re like most people…
Now you feel stuck because you want to be nice, but you’re vexed every time they reach out to you or want to see you.
And the funny thing is that the emotions and feelings that usually land us in this predicament are so strong that people you would not normally even …
- Give your number to
- Let know where you live
- Meet your family
- Tell your dreams/goals to
…have complete access to your life.
Now, would you be open-minded …
to learning 5 trusted but forgotten steps in how to cut people off without regret, and not take forever to do it?
Whew! That sounds harsh but remember, we’re really focused on maximizing your time and your potential here. And I’m here to help you do that.
It’s possible.
For more ways on how to make the most of your time read 6 Easy Ways to Stop Wasting Your Time.
1. Just Say No
The best way to get rid of something is not having to get rid of it all.
What does this mean?
Assess your patterns for when you’re letting the floodgates open in terms of people having access to your life.
Realize that your time, your energy, and any other resource that you have at your disposal are not your own, so you must be wise while you’re using them.
There is a particular reason why The Creator has plopped you on this green earth at this particular moment in history.
Lives will be changed with the proper use of your time, the proper use of your energy, and the proper use of your finances. You have to believe that.
Don’t take the mismanagement of your time lightly.
Moving forward, watch out for those moments in your life where you’re inclined to invite strangers into your space, into your world.
That means raise your sense of awareness.
It’s cool if you’re genuinely and honestly trying to make a new friend versus anyone and everyone being welcomed because you’re tired of being alone or have a lot going on in your life.
The Gift of Goodbye starts with not saying hello.
2. Gather the Facts
Being that you already have an inclination about cutting this person off, you need to do a clear and concise assessment of why, as this will help with the subsequent steps.
Things to check for in your assessment will include…
- Character, morals, ethics
- Your own instinct/your gut
- Contribution/Support of your vision
- Cohesiveness – their life direction vs yours
- The fruit they’ve produced in your life thus far
- Based on behavior, the potential outcome of them remaining in your life
Furthermore, ask yourself do you see them helping you advance and vice versa. Do they have vision, goals, and aspirations like you, or are they stagnant and latent?
Everyone doesn’t have to be on the same page as you, reading the same book.
You can have associates, you can be cordial.
But for those that you allow inside your circle, that you speak to and invest your time in continually, they need to be contributing to your life, adding value, and you the same for them.
3. Expose Your Indecisiveness
Now your assessment is complete, it’s time for you to make a decision.
This is highly important and highly crucial that you learn to make decisions that you don’t fall back on but stick to.
Indecisiveness is a tragedy.
Particularly, you’re playing with your life and you’re playing with your time, which is truly The Creator’s time.
If you have a problem with this, nip it in the bud in every area of your life, because behavior and habits always bubble over to various areas.
How you do one thing, is how you do everything.
In addition, once you’ve made a decision, based on the facts, which have all pointed to you letting this person go, Follow Through.
Don’t focus on what you’re losing, or what you may lose.
Focus on what you want out of your life, and out of yourself. You want peace, you want focus, concentration, and people surrounding you that will fuel your dreams and your passions.
And you have to love yourself enough to do this.
The Gift of Goodbye will give you that .. let’s continue.
4. Delight in Your Decision
Like most people out there, you’re probably hard-headed.
But, that’s most of the population so don’t worry.
Do not renege on your decision. You do this by…
- Overthinking
- Asking for Advice
- Procrastinating
Be fully committed, no wavering.
From the time you make the decision to the time of execution should be as short as possible.
Without a doubt, the most important and effective step is to make the decision.
You decide!
It’s either you or them.
It’s your happiness and peace of mind OR them.
You got your instinct, you got the facts, you made the decision, you’ve rejected indecisiveness, overthinking, seeking advice, and procrastination, now execute.
Need more help with being decisive? Read How to Ignite Your Productivity and Kiss Procrastination Goodbye.
5. Be Politically Correct
Although you may not want someone to be a part of your life or you want to establish new boundaries, respect is always given.
At the end of the day, people are the most important thing in this world (right after God).
People literally make life worth living.
Moreover, we are not by any means obligated or responsible for how others feel by the honesty and transparency that we may emit so long we do so in love and in truth.
That being said, whatsoever you do, do so in love, even if it’s telling someone you will no longer have access to my energy and presence.
We’re not out to make enemies, the goal as I will repeat again is to maximize the limited time you have on this earth so you can maximize and increase your potential.
Thus impacting lives and living out your purpose, distraction-free.
For more tips on how to improve your life look into The 3 Life-Changing Strategies You Need to Have a Phenomenal Year.
Wrapping it up
I will share a quick personal story with my own revelation of the Gift of Goodbye.
Breaking up with one of my ex’s left me distraught, in actuality, he broke up with me.
And it wasn’t until after the break up that I realized how sick I was, being engulfed with his entire existence.
Mentally, he would be at the forefront of my thoughts, physically, (well, use your imagination), and emotionally just attached like never before.
And when we broke up, it felt like life as I knew it, was coming to an end.
But when the pain finally subsided, boy did I feel like I fool.
I realized through grace and understanding that it was and is an insult to The Creator to ever sway yourself to believe that you can’t live without someone and make them your whole world.
People move in and out of your life, doors open, and some doors close, the best thing you can do is keep The Creator at the center and remain in a posture of gratitude and adaptability.
People that you think will be in your life forever, will not be, and those that are not even on your radar will show up and show out with opportunities and blessings.
The Gift of Goodbye is really a two-way street.
To clarify, you have to be open to letting things go, but also be ready when people and things are ready to let you go as well.
If it’s meant to be, it will see your face.
The best healthcare is self-care. Take back your power.
Until Next Time With Love,
