You are emotional.
Your feelings are inconsistent.
In addition, you believe the right circumstances will bring you happiness.
You rely on the people in your life to manifest your joy.
And to take it a step deeper, you think your ability to finally possess the sought-after life and material things you so desperately desire will cause an abundance of happiness to flourish.
Apart from this, you don’t understand why your feelings are incongruent.
And why they change so rapidly and so violently like a storm in a gray ocean as if you couldn’t even control yourself.
If this sounds like you keep reading.
To begin your true embrace with reality…
You must understand that happiness is a daily choice.
Undoubtedly and Powerfully, your choice.
On some days a harder choice to make, but your choice nonetheless.
Furthermore, it’s a deliberate effort of consistency.
A fight.
Where you tell your mind “not today” on an everyday basis.
It’s the love you show for yourself, by refusing to go there.
By refusing to dwell on the negative threshold of life, that will create a negative rhythm of unconscious thought.
Along with, the intentional things you do daily, not by accident to choose life and to choose love.
It’s your heightened sense of awareness of weak and debilitating actions and thought patterns that truly cause pain and suffering and to refrain from doing them.
It’s in your present moment, it’s here now.
Choosing happiness is stepping into your personal place of power and no longer bending to life and its circumstances.
Therefore, no longer being a slave to your own mind and flesh.
Happiness shows up as…
- Compassion
- Self-love
- Self-forgiveness
- Self-acceptance
- True fulfillment
Moreover, it’s the release of fear and anger in every aspect of your life and relationships.
Significantly, it’s not that hard to do, I’ll show you how with 21 easy tips to help you move toward happiness now.
1. Value You First
Start taking care of yourself first.
After God, you should be next on your list of priorities.
Without the proper care of yourself, everything that you do suffers.
People know this, like their legitimately aware, but will still neglect themselves, and most importantly their health (mental health is just as significant as physical health by the way, and can be just as detrimental if left unkept).
Let’s not wait for illness to sweep us off our feet where we are forced to face the lack of investment in that area of our lives. Start by making a health plan now.
2. Kill the Victim
Victim of what exactly?
Of your mind.
Victim to the unconscious habitual compounding thoughts of negativity that gets out of hand without a heightened sense of awareness.
You have to start believing in yourself and the power you have.
The mind was created to serve you.
You have been given power, dominion, and authority, and it’s time to start living in that truth.
3. Stop Complaining
Just Stop.
4. Beware of Gossiping
Just imagine, and ask yourself…
- Are you truly where you want to be in life?
- Have you run your course?
- Have you lived such a life where you can look back with your feet crossed and let The Creator say you have done well?
- Are you living out your purpose passionately?
If you can’t say yes to every question I just asked then ask yourself how would you ever have the time to gossip or engage with those who gossip?
5. Eliminate Your Feelings of Dislike Towards Yourself & Others
So let’s start here. You don’t even know anyone well enough to hate or dislike them.
The truth is, most people don’t even know themselves.
Life is a growing process as we continue to evolve consistently.
With that being said you may dislike certain behaviors that people display, but you don’t dislike them.
People don’t usually show their whole and true selves to the world, they expose who they want people to see, so it’s impossible to dislike someone.
The same thing goes for you. The world has shaped your perception so wrongly that you don’t even know who you are or what you’re truly capable of.
Show yourself some compassion. Accept and approve of yourself exactly how you are without judgment and criticism.
Hatred and Dislike take too much energy anyway.
6. Smile
7. Rebel Against Negative Words & Images
Your mind will manifest what you feed it.
If you’re constantly around negative people, watching the news, and listening to complaining, eventually it’ll start affecting you.
You have to proactively give your mind positive words and images to dwell on and recall.
In addition, environment is everything when it comes to the promotion of mental health.
If you can’t physically leave your environment, do it artificially by reading books, listening to audio, watching encouraging media, and meditating on the Word that will fill your mind with affirmative thoughts.
8. Stop Horsing Around
Start executing in your life.
Self-discipline is actually one of the best ways to choose happiness.
Not only does it increase your confidence in yourself and your abilities, but it is also known to bear massive amounts of success.
Also, when you don’t keep your word you feel frustrated, have guilt, and participate in self-judgment.
If you need help gaining more discipline read How to Ignite Your Productivity and Kiss Procrastination Goodbye.
9. Exercise
10. Don’t be Stink
Free yourself from criticizing and judging others.
People who constantly have an opinion of what someone else is doing or wearing or saying are the same ones who feel like people are always judging them.
Stop having an opinion, an unwanted and unwarranted opinion may I add, and in turn free yourself in the process so you don’t have to constantly think, “what do other people think?”
11. Shatter Your Perfect Image
Stop wasting your time trying to fix things you can not change.
Moreover, things that were never meant to be changed.
Start accepting the flaws that make you, YOU.
The Ultimate Creator never makes mistakes.
Remember in your weakness is where his strength lies. Let him shine through you and be glorified by your weaknesses instead of trying to cover them up.
12. Laugh More
13. Condition Yourself to Always Seek Good
Make a list of 5 things that are good about you, or that you do well for 30 consecutive days.
Challenge yourself to focus on the things you do well, and limit focus and energy on the things you don’t do right.
Eventually, you will see that the good, will start to outweigh the intolerable.
As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.
If you’re looking to have a better relationship with someone, then use the same technique with them. The easiest way to change someone is to change yourself.
14. Abuse Gratitude
What are you grateful for?
There are so many simple things to be grateful for that we seldom give thanks and appreciation.
The basics such as clothes and running water, a car to drive, and our health.
I don’t know about you, but when I open my mouth to give praise and gratitude to The Creator, it strengthens me because I know that I am an extension of Him created in His Image & Likeness.
For instance, when I thank God for creating the human body with all the marvelous things it can do, I realize I have that same creativity in me, maybe not on that same level, but it’s in my DNA.
Be thankful for the trivial things.
Everything you are grateful for, you will see multiplied in your life.
15. Meditate
16. Cripple All Negative Perceptions
Consider that everything in your life is neither good nor bad, it’s neutral.
Based on your belief system, you assign meaning to events which you categorize as good or bad.
God can use what you see as a bad situation to do a lot of good in your life, it’s all about perspective.
17. Prioritize Mastering Your Mind
Most people don’t take the time to make this a priority.
Whatever you don’t master will master you.
Similarly, it’s like any part of your health. If you let your diet get out of control and don’t exercise, illness creeps up.
It takes time, but eventually, you’ll start to feel the effects.
Such as with your mental health, without the proper upkeep, you’ll notice your mind controlling you instead of you controlling it.
For instance, just like hand washing is good for infection prevention, there are basic things you should learn about your mind and how it works to prevent “infection” and cobwebs from growing up there.
For a basic starting point, read 4 Compelling Secrets to Quiet the Mind Instantly.
18. Get More Sleep
19. Stop Being Obsessed With Overthinking
Sometimes when we’ve been hurt or when we’re in pain, all we want to do is be alone and just think.
For instance, we replay scenarios and words.
For some strange reason, we low-key like to suffer and get entangled in our negative thoughts, like somehow we deserve this pain for whatever part we played.
In particular, we are probing for the right answers and putting pressure and tension on ourselves to make the right decisions Now, but can’t seem to think it through enough.
Sometimes the best thing we can do is just quiet our minds. Meditate on His Word and let God be our guide.
Alternatively, what we shouldn’t do, is wrestle with our thoughts for countless hours at a time, while allowing life and time to slip through our fingers.
For an in-depth guide that is geared to help you stop overthinking read How to Change Your Mindset & Stop Overthinking for Good.
20. Give up Always Being Right For Cooperation
You don’t ever see a tree, telling a seed, “I refuse to grow.”
Or
The sun telling the moon “I’m not moving it’s still my time to shine on this part of the earth.”
I believe we can all learn something from nature.
There’s a time and a season for all things.
Thus, everything is in perfect harmony and requires consistent cooperation from their counterparts.
Just think about all we do to this planet in terms of pollution, emissions, and deforestation but still, it’s able to sustain us thus far.
Generally, happiness is found in cooperation, not resistance.
Resistance creates tension. Let go.
21. Dance/Sing
Have you ever seen someone upset dancing or singing?
Well, I haven’t, so try it.
Overview
Give yourself a break.
Life, learning, and growing are progressive.
Remember the way you treat other people and the way you allow others to treat you is a reflection of how you treat yourself, so be kind.
Happiness is a state of mind, it’s what you choose to focus on, it’s a decision that you make on a daily basis despite your surroundings.
Don’t criticize, don’t judge, but instead have an open heart and an open mind for and towards others.
The best healthcare is self-care. Take back your power.
Until Next Time With Love,
